Preparing Boys for Life.

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Exploring America's narrow definition of masculinity
Dr. John Nagl

The film argues convincingly that our society requires boys to wear a mask that hides their fears, their pain, their suffering - their deepest selves - from everyone they meet.

Janet says, "The message that 'boys don't cry' is one the students have heard. But at Haverford they receive a message that offers a broader definition of manhood, one that celebrates their connection to each other and appreciates the depth of their emotional lives."

We all have a role to play in determining how young men should act, in encouraging male behavior that is empathetic and honest and genuine. We all want our sons to be men of character, good citizens who care for each other and for the world they will soon lead.

At The Haverford School, we work hard to help our boys feel safe to be who they really are. I am proud that boys support each other consistently and publicly. Lacrosse stars come to the soccer games and cheer on their friends, and they all applaud at the spring musical. They will openly praise each other and even tell each other that they love their brothers - a big and very welcome change from the ways boys behaved at my prep school a generation ago. Whatever you love doing is okay - as long as you give it everything you've got.

We all have a role to play in determining how young men should act, in encouraging male behavior that is empathetic and honest and genuine. We all want our sons to be men of character, good citizens who care for each other and for the world they will soon lead. Watching this trailer with your son and discussing the concept of masculinity with him is a good way to start.

- Dr. John Nagl, Ninth Headmaster

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